As you’ll know by now if you’ve been reading King of Hearts for a while, I’m a big fan of online dating. It’s exactly how I met my fiancé, and I think that we’re so lucky to live in times when it can be so simple and straightforward to meet likeminded people to share our time with.
There’s a dating site out there for everyone, and whether you’re into bdsm dates or something a little more vanilla, you won’t have to look far to find something that’s right up your street. But if you decide that you want to go on some more niche dating adventures, you might be a little bit concerned about your safety.
This is a natural worry to have, but the good news is that there are several practical steps you can take to make sure that you’re safe and protected. Here’s what you need to know…
Don’t be scared to communicate your boundaries
The very nature of niche dating means that it may be a little unconventional. You might be signing up for such services purely because you want some no-strings fun, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Because of this though, it’s especially important that you communicate clearly with any potential suitors and you let them know if there’s anything that you’re just not comfortable with. This will prevent any misunderstandings, and help you to connect with people who are looking for the same things.
Take common sense precautions
A little common sense can go a long way! If you’re using sites like mybdsmhookups.com then you should follow all the usual rules that you’ll probably be familiar with. Be sure not to share too much about your personal circumstances, such as your home or work address, and remember that whilst most people will be completely genuine, not everyone will be who they say they are. If you’re arranging to meet someone, then always make sure that it’s in a public place, and if possible, let a family member or friend know where you’ll be going and when they can expect to hear from you.
Trust your instincts
It’s so easy to underestimate the value of your instincts. When things don’t feel quite right, we can tell ourselves that we’re just being paranoid, or that we need to chill out a little bit. When it comes to dating though, and especially staying safe, you really shouldn’t ignore how you feel and what your instincts are telling you. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable for any reason – even if you can’t quite put your finger on the reason why – then trust yourself and see this as a red flag.
Your safety is a vital consideration when you’re doing any kind of dating, and you should never do anything that could compromise it. Following this advice can keep you protected though, and allow you to enjoy your dating adventures. Being a little nervous is natural and to be expected, but don’t let it put you off getting out there and meeting new people!